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Agreeing to be a bridesmaid or maid of honor is no small task—depending on the size of the wedding and your friend's expectations, you may have a lot of pre-wedding and day-of responsibilities, or just a handful of parties to attend (lucky you). It's important to be informed before you dive into the role of bridesmaid, so read on to discover everything that might be asked of you if you agree to take on the challenge.
While the maid of honor will usually take the lead on this, you'll be expected to help generate ideas, chip in to pay for the event, and to attend the event itself. (However, speak up if what the MOH is envisioning is out of your budget and don't feel obliged to attend if it's not financially possible.)
Planning the bridal shower isn't a duty that always falls on the shoulders of a bridesmaid—a mom, sister, cousin, aunt, or non-bridesmaid friend might take the lead—but don't be surprised if this task lands on your plate. You'll also be expected to attend; but again, if you can't make it (highly likely if your friend lives in a different city), that's OK.
If you're an out-of-towner, plan to arrive early enough the day before the wedding so that you can be at the rehearsal. You'll also likely be expected to attend other events (like the engagement party and the day-after brunch), but your presence there is less important than it is at the rehearsal.
On her wedding day, the bride may be stressed out or panicky. Help keep her calm by liaising with the wedding planner, vendors, family, and guests, and taking care of anything else she might need. (Pre-wedding mimosas, anyone?)
Be prepared to help the flower girl or ring bearer down the aisle, witness the signing of the marriage certificate, hold one or both of the wedding rings, and hold the bride's bouquet. It’s all in the job!
Not every bridesmaid will be asked to make a speech, but if you're particularly close to the bride, you might ask if you can say a few words about your friendship. Take a deep breath and go for it—she'll be touched.
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